Dating is hard. People send confusing signals sometimes, and it's difficult to find someone who's on the same page as you are — someone who wants the same things you want. You say these things and more when your parents ask you why you're 'still' single, but they don't seem to understand. And honestly? Neither do you! You're great and you know it! But if you haven't had much luck in the dating game for whatever reason, and you want to meet someone, consider hopping into the dating app game. If it's your first time using dating apps, don't freak out! It's totally normal to be a little bit nervous. But there's a first time for everything, and once you get over the initial jump in, it's smooth sailing (or swiping) from there.
Here are a few things I wish I knew before I started swiping on dating apps (a long, long time ago.) I was a little skeptical at first. It took a lot of convincing from my friends in college to actually get me to download them, but I've learned so much. It's a process, but it's a fun way to get to know people, and you might very well find 'the one' along the way. Keep these things in mind before you hit 'Download,' and happy matching!
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Your profile is being distributed among thousands and thousands of users. A lot of people are looking at your pictures and bio, so you're most likely bound to get several matches if you're constantly swiping. The amount will probably decrease as you yourself start swiping less too, but still. Hundreds of people think you're a cutie, and they want to talk to you! It's OK to feel good about it. It might even feel a little addicting at first! But no matter how great you feel about your matches, it's important to remember that your 'attractiveness' isn't just superficial, and it's definitely not tied to the amount of matches you get. People don't get the entire picture of who you are just by looking at your dating app profile, so don't let your amount of matches get to your head (or get you down)!
Unfortunately, not everyone we like likes us back. That's just life, man. There's a 99 percent chance you won't even remember who didn't 'like' you back because you're seeing so many people on the app anyway, so don't fret. If you don't match with one hottie, you will probably match with the next one.
You won't like everyone you see, either. Dating apps aren't a mystical paradise abundant with models. There are real people looking for real relationships (or situationships). Take the time to read people's bios, their information, and learn a little bit about them before deciding which way to swipe. What you read might impact you even more than what you see.
Not everyone on dating apps wants a full-blown, exclusive relationship. I once dated a guy for months before he told me he didn't want anything 'too serious,' which I thought we basically were already doing! I would've liked for him to have told me how he was feeling from the very start of our situationship. When someone is open and honest with you from the beginning, believe them! Don't think that they'll suddenly change their mind, because even though that's always a possibility, it's never a guarantee. Take what they say at face value, whether it's right in their bio, or within the first few minutes of your chat.
Browse singles without signing up. Some people are more suave than others, so do not be surprised if one match sweeps you off your feet, and the next one seriously underwhelms you with their pick-up line. Dating apps are an unpredictable way of dating. You never know whom you're going to find and what their style is going to be.
Swiping in your hometown? There's a very good chance you will run into people you went to high school with on dating apps. Even at huge colleges, you could easily match with someone in your class. It doesn't have to be awkward if you don't make it awkward! Act natural and ignore it. The person on the other side is probably equally mortified, and if they call you out on it IRL, laugh it off! They're using apps just as much as you are, and it's nothing to be ashamed of.
Another unfortunate situation? Running into your friends' partners or exes on the apps. It doesn't always happen, but when it does, use your best judgement. If the person you see on an app is seriously dating someone you're close to, it may be best to gently break it to your friend. If you run into someone who's technically dating someone you don't really know that well, you might just want to move on and stay out of it. Follow your gut, and you'll know what feels right. This is never a fun decision, but only you know what's best in these situations, depending on your relationships with everyone involved.
If someone is a jerk on a dating app, block them! It's not 'mean' or 'rude.' It's you doing what you have to do to ensure you have a safe and enjoyable experience on a dating app. Plain and simple! Many apps have strict no-tolerance policies about harassment and unsolicited photos. So strict, in fact, that you can even flag them or report them. If it feels like the right thing to do, do it! You might be helping the next person in their path to avoid same yucky situation.
I've been on several first dates with guys from dating apps, and I can say I've never really had a bad experience. Most (if not all) of the people I've met are respectful, nice, and considerate. I gauge their online personalities very thoroughly before meeting up with them IRL. I look them up on social media, see if we have any mutual friends, and ask said mutual friends how they know the person and what they're really like. If someone asks me out on a date, and I don't feel comfortable just yet, I have no qualms about saying, 'Not just yet, thank you!' or 'I'm actually super busy this weekend,' and taking the next week to keep the conversation going and learning more about them.
As the wise queen Beyoncé once said in 2006's 'Irreplaceable,' 'I can have another you in a minute.' This is particularly true of dating apps.
Do whatever makes you comfortable, swipe for as long as you want, and if one match doesn't work out, that's OK. Don't you ever, for a second, get to thinking they're irreplaceable.
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Dating is hard. People send confusing signals sometimes, and it's difficult to find someone who's on the same page as you are — someone who wants the same things you want. You say these things and more when your parents ask you why you're 'still' single, but they don't seem to understand. And honestly? Neither do you! You're great and you know it! But if you haven't had much luck in the dating game for whatever reason, and you want to meet someone, consider hopping into the dating app game. If it's your first time using dating apps, don't freak out! It's totally normal to be a little bit nervous. But there's a first time for everything, and once you get over the initial jump in, it's smooth sailing (or swiping) from there.
Here are a few things I wish I knew before I started swiping on dating apps (a long, long time ago.) I was a little skeptical at first. It took a lot of convincing from my friends in college to actually get me to download them, but I've learned so much. It's a process, but it's a fun way to get to know people, and you might very well find 'the one' along the way. Keep these things in mind before you hit 'Download,' and happy matching!
The gay dating app became known for its location-based matching, which facilitates real-time, in-person connections by showing men how close they are to romance. Grindr has quickly become one of the biggest names in the gay dating scene, and it currently has over 3 million daily active users in 234 countries.
Add to Wishlist. Our Time, Dating Made Easy. Our Time is the #1 dating app for mature men and women, with a simple mission: To help singles in their 50s, 60s, and beyond spark meaningful connections. Our unique focus is on celebrating this time of your life, and helping you find the quality connection you're looking for. Add to Wishlist. Our Time, Dating Made Easy. Our Time is the #1 dating app for mature men and women, with a simple mission: To help singles in their 50s, 60s, and beyond spark meaningful connections. Our unique focus is on celebrating this time of your life, and helping you find the quality connection you're looking for. Heybaby is the dating app for those with kids or those who know they want them someday. If that's you, you're in luck. Unlike other apps, where you need to have the awkward, 'So do you um want. Our Time, Dating Made Easy. Our Time is the #1 dating app for mature men and women, with a simple mission: To help singles in their 50s, 60s, and beyond spark meaningful connections. Our unique focus is on celebrating this time of your life, and helping you find the quality connection you're looking for.
Your profile is being distributed among thousands and thousands of users. A lot of people are looking at your pictures and bio, so you're most likely bound to get several matches if you're constantly swiping. The amount will probably decrease as you yourself start swiping less too, but still. Hundreds of people think you're a cutie, and they want to talk to you! It's OK to feel good about it. It might even feel a little addicting at first! But no matter how great you feel about your matches, it's important to remember that your 'attractiveness' isn't just superficial, and it's definitely not tied to the amount of matches you get. People don't get the entire picture of who you are just by looking at your dating app profile, so don't let your amount of matches get to your head (or get you down)!
Unfortunately, not everyone we like likes us back. That's just life, man. There's a 99 percent chance you won't even remember who didn't 'like' you back because you're seeing so many people on the app anyway, so don't fret. If you don't match with one hottie, you will probably match with the next one.
You won't like everyone you see, either. Dating apps aren't a mystical paradise abundant with models. There are real people looking for real relationships (or situationships). Take the time to read people's bios, their information, and learn a little bit about them before deciding which way to swipe. What you read might impact you even more than what you see.
Not everyone on dating apps wants a full-blown, exclusive relationship. I once dated a guy for months before he told me he didn't want anything 'too serious,' which I thought we basically were already doing! I would've liked for him to have told me how he was feeling from the very start of our situationship. When someone is open and honest with you from the beginning, believe them! Don't think that they'll suddenly change their mind, because even though that's always a possibility, it's never a guarantee. Take what they say at face value, whether it's right in their bio, or within the first few minutes of your chat.
Browse singles without signing up. Some people are more suave than others, so do not be surprised if one match sweeps you off your feet, and the next one seriously underwhelms you with their pick-up line. Dating apps are an unpredictable way of dating. You never know whom you're going to find and what their style is going to be.
Swiping in your hometown? There's a very good chance you will run into people you went to high school with on dating apps. Even at huge colleges, you could easily match with someone in your class. It doesn't have to be awkward if you don't make it awkward! Act natural and ignore it. The person on the other side is probably equally mortified, and if they call you out on it IRL, laugh it off! They're using apps just as much as you are, and it's nothing to be ashamed of.
Another unfortunate situation? Running into your friends' partners or exes on the apps. It doesn't always happen, but when it does, use your best judgement. If the person you see on an app is seriously dating someone you're close to, it may be best to gently break it to your friend. If you run into someone who's technically dating someone you don't really know that well, you might just want to move on and stay out of it. Follow your gut, and you'll know what feels right. This is never a fun decision, but only you know what's best in these situations, depending on your relationships with everyone involved.
If someone is a jerk on a dating app, block them! It's not 'mean' or 'rude.' It's you doing what you have to do to ensure you have a safe and enjoyable experience on a dating app. Plain and simple! Many apps have strict no-tolerance policies about harassment and unsolicited photos. So strict, in fact, that you can even flag them or report them. If it feels like the right thing to do, do it! You might be helping the next person in their path to avoid same yucky situation.
I've been on several first dates with guys from dating apps, and I can say I've never really had a bad experience. Most (if not all) of the people I've met are respectful, nice, and considerate. I gauge their online personalities very thoroughly before meeting up with them IRL. I look them up on social media, see if we have any mutual friends, and ask said mutual friends how they know the person and what they're really like. If someone asks me out on a date, and I don't feel comfortable just yet, I have no qualms about saying, 'Not just yet, thank you!' or 'I'm actually super busy this weekend,' and taking the next week to keep the conversation going and learning more about them.
As the wise queen Beyoncé once said in 2006's 'Irreplaceable,' 'I can have another you in a minute.' This is particularly true of dating apps.
Do whatever makes you comfortable, swipe for as long as you want, and if one match doesn't work out, that's OK. Don't you ever, for a second, get to thinking they're irreplaceable.
Check out the entire Gen Why series and other videos on Facebook and the Bustle app across Apple TV, Roku, and Amazon Fire TV.
Check out the 'Best of Elite Daily' stream in the Bustle App for more stories just like this!
Tinder is dead.
Don't get me wrong, Tinder was great when it first broke out onto the scene. But it has gradually evolved from its initial purpose of being a hook-up app to a 'dating' app to what it is now – a validation-seeking app.
Given that the current generation of young people is socially deficient and isn't getting laid, I've always been intrigued by Tinder. So much so that I've considered writing a PhD thesis on Tinder and becoming a sex researcher. You know, so that I can test whether squirting is actually peeing and collect flowback samples from vaginas.
Tinder's recent move to impose a swipe limit was supposed to be good for all of us – people would exercise their limited swipes carefully and thus your matches are less likely to be flaky, right? Well, not so. Because anyone who has had any sort of success with Tinder knows that it's all about the Numbers Game. The end result of the swipe limit is that more time-wasters, validation-seekers and fake profiles (including commercial hookers) = less success.
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Sure, if you're looking for a hook-up, there are still girls who are looking for the same thing lurking in the background waiting to be discovered. But the difference between then and now is this – with the tremendous increase in popularity of the app, the influx of girls coming on board comprises a ton of chicks who treat this whole swiping thing as a game.
Yeah, for people to compete with their friends how many matches they can get when they are bored on a lonely night at the bar. For people to boost their egos, seek attention, cock-tease you with no intention of ever meeting up.
Doesn't matter if you look like Leonardo DiCaprio, or if you exchange endless texts and tell them thousands of jokes – it's more likely that Leo wins another Oscar before they meet up with you in person. Simply because they are NOT AVAILABLE in the first place.
There you go, it's now more challenging to sieve through all the noise and get to the needle in the haystack. You have to learn to 'screen' harder than ever, to get through the time-wasters. Don't be mistaken, you can still get laid if you persist. There are only two conditions: to find that chick who is available and DTF, and for you to be good looking enough for her.
What I've said varies according to a few factors – which determine the extent to which you might face this problem (so don't be so quick to send me your hate mail). Some of the factors include:
1. a) Your Location – Is the city you live in filled with open-minded people who embrace a liberal culture, or do you live in a conservative country like me where people remain virgins until the age of 30 and then proceed to have sex 3 times in their whole lives between 30 and 40 years old (the three nights that their three children were conceived).
1. b) Your Standards – How low are you willing to go? Is your ego so huge that you are reluctant to go for anyone less than Megan Fox or Charlotte McKinney? Or are you prepared to lower your threshold because every human being looks the same after a couple of beers? And of course the most important factor at the end of the day is
1. c) Your Looks – Duh. That's the hard truth.
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If you find that Tinder is not working out for you where you live, listen up. If you've been rotting in your basement the past 2 years swiping with no results, here is what you need to do. I have 3 solutions for you, to prove that I'm not just spewing drivel due to my lack of evolutionary success.
1) Filter hard. Real hard.
Don't waste your time engaging in long back-and-forth messages. Ask her out as soon as possible. Here's my take on this. If she would agree to meet up after 20 messages, she would agree to meet up after 10 messages. If she would agree to meet up after 10 messages, she would agree to meet up after 5 messages. You get the idea. Yes I know, some women may need more time to get comfortable and get a lawyer to certify that you're not a serial killer before agreeing to hang out.
But remember this – Excitement is more powerful than Comfort. If she already likes you, and you ask her out immediately – that's exciting. There's no need overdo the comfort part. Conversely, if she never intended to be down, you can't change that no matter how many hours you chat. Instead of spending your precious time 'building comfort', it is more time-efficient to filter out the attention-seekers and go for those who are down to hang right away.
2) It's all about branding.
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To be very clear here, I'm speaking to men using the app for its original intended purpose – to hook-up. Since users of the app have now diversified so much, it's important to 'market' yourself correctly. If you're looking to hook-up, then portray yourself as such – someone who knows what he is doing so she knows she is going to get a good time. If you're looking to score a girlfriend or a potential wife, then portray yourself as boyfriend material, which may take you a longer time to get a girl out. Law of Attraction 101.
3) Better still, do what your grandfather did when he did not have technology during his time.
It's time to return to the old days and stop hiding behind a screen. Get out of the house and get back to some good old approaching. Tinder was meant to help us save time by mass 'approaching' tons of women. Because it's a numbers game after all. But as they said, insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Unless you are Katniss Everdeen (Jennifer Lawrence) from Hunger Games, the odds are NOT in your fucking favor.
Think about it, how many messages do women receive a day?
The harsh reality is that there are way too many horny men out there competing for a limited number of women looking for a hook-up. Or in economics terminology, there are no barriers to entry for men because they have nothing to lose.
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See a cute girl on the street? Go up and make an introduction (in the most non-creepy way you can), get her number and hang out. It's more energy consuming but in the long run, it would be the most effective way because straight-up approaching in real life takes balls of steel that not many men have. Sure, if hook-up apps are working for you – by all means continue sticking to your strategy. I'm speaking to the men out there who are sending out loads of messages all day with zero success whatsoever to speak for, yet continue to delude themselves that they are 'saving time.'
TL;DR: Tinder is no longer the magic bullet to climbing the natural selection pyramid. Smart Bros have to think out of the box and innovate to stay ahead of the game. Don't use technology as a clutch; get the hell out and talk to women.
